Dating too nice guy
Any time you want to host a dinner party with your closest friends, you feel guilty that your guy won’t have any of his friends there, and before you know it you’ve also invited his five closest friends and are spending 0 more on food and cleaning 10 more plates. Maybe you don’t leave your weekends empty but fill them up with plans with your friends, which you proceed to cancel at the last minute because your guy calls you to go out. It might feel rude to not reach for your purse when a check arrives, but try not to reach for it every time.
If your guy is letting you pay, it could either be because he thinks you’re a feminist who is offended at being paid for, OR you truly enjoy treating him, OR because he is a mooch…you don’t want it to be the last explanation, and you’ll never find out unless you stop reaching for that purse.
My girlfriend is coming over.” Let him live in his own filth, or clean it up!? This kind of big favor is okay occasionally, but if your guy asks it of you on a regular basis, you’re being taken advantage of. You’re not your boyfriend’s cab driver; you’re his girlfriend.
How long has it been since your guy helped you achieve your peak in bed? Don’t make excuses to your friends for your guy when he acts antisocial. It’s that maternal instinct popping up: you see a helpless guy, stumbling around barely able to talk and you say, “I can help you! ” Or, perhaps you don’t think it’s “ladylike” of you to get drunk in front of your guy, so you always DD. Even though you’re a vegetarian, you make steak for your guy every time he comes over (which is a lot) and then on the side make yourself a vegetarian meal.
Now while you might start getting really excited by this prospect, this particular guy has probably gotten freaked out.
At this point, he’s afraid that everything he said in the beginning has led you to believe that you guys are a couple and he starts acting in a way that shows you this is not the case.
What every man needs to know about the heart and mind of women. Besides, aren’t these the qualities spelled out on every woman’s dating ‘List?
Still, there are little things his text messages, body language and mannerisms can reveal about his true feelings.